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ADHD and Anger

ADHD and Anger


When you have ADHD, your brain kind of
goes 0 to 60 in about two seconds. So the inhibition part that is a little off
with ADHD, you don’t really have those split seconds to decide if you need to
take a deep breath or calm down. And so your anger can spike up really
high. So that differs by person, some people tend to be pretty Type B, kind
of laid-back, other people they tend to react more, and
sometimes that’s just a personality that you’re born with. So how to help kids
when they’re having an outburst and how to calm them down. One is medication,
stimulant medication helps, it gives you those split seconds to decide if this is
a good behavior decision or not. Also doing mindfulness meditation helps as
well. When people do mindfulness meditation they kind of stay in the here and
now, and I’ve seen this work in kids as young as 4 years old. When you focus on
inhaling and exhaling, you tend to kind of take yourself away from the thing that
was kind of spiking up your anger. I draw a little stick figure for kids, and I say,
“OK, starting from your head to your toes, let’s talk about what does your body
feel like when you get mad?” And it could be that their heart starts racing, they
start getting a headache, their hands get clammy. So we talk about how to kind of
head that off at the pass. When you start feeling like that, here’s what you can do.
Take some deep breaths, go tell your parents, tell your teacher that you need
a time-out. Also getting to the root of what is the
cause of the anger. Is it that your child is sleep-deprived? And they’re getting up
in the morning and just having a really rough morning, because, you know, when you don’t get enough sleep, you have more problems with emotion regulation. So
is it that? Is something going on at school and they really don’t want to go
to school? And some kids express anxiety as anger, that can be a personality
trait that we see. And also sometimes when kids have depression it comes out
like anger as well. And if it’s getting to the point too where kids almost seem like
they’re blacking out when they get angry, and they’re not remembering anything at all,
that’s probably when you want to go talk to a professional about that, because
there could be some other things going on.

  1. I need help. I know I do. I just can't deal with everything right now.

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