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Parents Explain Online Privacy | Cut


– Odin, do you know that your
device has parental controls? – Uh, yeah. – Do you know how to turn them off? – Yes. – Yes?! – Yes. (classical music) – I’m Katie, Jack’s my son. – I’m Salaja, this is my mom. – [Interviewer] What devices do you have? – My phone, and the TV at home. – I have my Wii, my Gizmo, my Kindle, my iPad, and my phone. – I have a phone, my laptop. – I have a computer. – [Interviewer] How come she
has a cell phone and you don’t? – In middle school, unless
you have straight A’s, you don’t get a cell phone. – We’re gonna talk about online privacy. Do you know what that means? – No idea. (laughs)
– There you go! – [Interviewer] What’s online privacy? – Um, online privacy is… I don’t know how to explain it, except… If you’re just… – It’s protecting yourself from the, from the internet, and online people, things, I don’t know if I have a good explanation of online privacy. – There’s a lot of information out there that’s really exciting to do, but there’s also information
that’s being taken from you, when you use your phones,
and I need you to be sophisticated and savvy enough to know that you’re getting something and you’re giving something in return to get that information. – You know how I made you delete YouTube? And I don’t want you to
play games like Fortnite? – Yeah.
– Shouldn’t hear “yeah”. So the reason is, because there’s a lot of
things on the internet where you can communicate
with other people, we have no idea who those people are, that you’re talking to, right? And sometimes adults don’t
have good intentions, and they’re trying to get
information out of you. – People might wanna show
you inappropriate things, who might wanna teach
you inappropriate things. – Like what? Like what? – Things that your little
brain couldn’t even handle or imagine.
– Tell me now! Tell me now! – I’m trying to protect
you from these things. – Tell me now.
– I don’t wanna tell you. – I mean, maybe some hard core
porn (mumbles) to show you. I mean whatever you do in your
private time’s your business, but… – [Interviewer] Vanessa, do
you have any restrictions with your phone? – No, except that they track me. – And there is a provision
that if you erase anything, if your memory has strange gaps,
it’s gonna be an assumption that you’re maybe looking at stuff we don’t want you to look at, and there’ll be consequences for that. – Yeah. Do you trust us to be responsible? Like, not to do anything wrong? – No! – I think you guys should trust me, not to go through my phone, though. – Well, it’s not about
that we don’t trust you, it’s that we don’t trust
other people out there. – It’s not that I don’t trust you, it’s others. So I have to protect you, and I have to look through your phone in order to protect you. Or, okay, I could trust you, too– – Yeah.
– But I mean, it kinda keeps me hip, too,
if I look at a few things. – I trust you as much as I
should trust a thirteen-year-old. You’re supposed to make mistakes. But I wanna kinda be there, so that your mistakes aren’t major. – What social media apps do you have? – Snapchat, Instagram,
YouTube, and TikTok. I turned off everything being private. – You turned off everything being private? So, everything’s public? Why would you do that? – ‘Cause I can tell the
bad people from the good. – I want your accounts to
stay private, I want you to– – This one isn’t private. – I would like for you to
have your accounts private. – Yeah, I know, I mean I don’t care about turning it on private. – Well, then, why was it not on private? – ‘Cause I didn’t care to– (sighs) – I’m gonna check it in a
week, and make sure that that stayed on private. – [Interviewer] Does he have
any social media accounts? – Yes, but he doesn’t actually use them. – I have Twitter, and… I do! – You have Twitter?
– I’ll show you. – Odin, do you know that your
device has parental controls? – Uh, yeah. – Do you know how to turn them off? – Yes.
– Yes?! – Here’s Twitter. – How often do you do this
without my permission? – Often. – That’s me and Tiffany. – Are you guys in the bathroom? – Yes, we are.
– At school? – Yes, we are.
It was before class. – So, can anybody online see that? – Only the people that follow me. – But you said you have everything public. – Yeah, but not a lot
of people go to my page. – You don’t know that.
– I do know that. It gives you notifications. – I want your friends to
know that your creepy dad is on your social media, so
they’re gonna be more careful, because you guys are also responsible for what your friends say. – That’s great.
– Hmph. – Are you upset at me?
– No, well, I feel like– – You can be upset at me.
– I feel like a few of the things you’re saying,
it’s not realistic. Most of the people I know aren’t gonna change how they do things, just ’cause a parent is concerned about it. – What’s the worst thing
you have ever posted? – I don’t know!
I don’t post that much, I can’t think of anything
I’ve ever regretted. – Then, why do you have an account? – Just for, like, to see other people. – So you’re just nosy?
– (sigh) No! – [Interviewer] Ask your
daughter if she has a “finsta”. – Ask her if she has a what? – [Interviewer] A “finsta”. – Do you have a “finsta”?
– I do not. – What’s a…
– A “finsta,” it’s like a, like a fake Instagram kids
don’t want their parents to see, keeping it a little
more private from them. – Would you do that to me? You wouldn’t do that, you
would just talk to me, right? Oh! Oh!
(laughs) – Now, what would happen to
you guys if I found a “finsta”? – They have a wine closet, and
he has a key to that closet. And he will take all of the electronics, and he will put them in the
closet, and he will lock it up. – I am a horrible person. – Why can’t I post things to Instagram? – Because even in the
short time that you’ve had an Instagram account, there’ve been a couple of odd messages I’ve received from people that I don’t know.
– Like what? – Someone was like, “where are you?” Or something. That’s not a question I
want you to be answering. – What would you do, if
you were on your tablet, and a stranger messaged you?
– I’ll delete it. – What if they’re like,
“click here for $1 million”? – I would still delete it.
– Oh. – If someone said, “Come with me,” I’d say, “Shut the bleep up!” – Well, that’s good to know, I suppose. – Do you flirt with strangers online? – No. – Has anybody flirted with you online? – No. – Just a random person
that worked name and said, “hey, what’s your name?” – Like, online, no.
– Now, ooh! – No, I– (laughs) – Have you ever received
any, like, naked pictures? Do your friends send those pictures? – Hm-mm. I’ve heard people
at school send stuff, but my friends haven’t sent any. – What do you say to ’em when you find out that they sent that stuff? – I don’t say anything about
them, it’s not my business. It gets leaked, it gets
leaked. It’s your fault! – You should tell them that! That stuff can follow you,
employers look at that stuff, moms look at that stuff. (laughs) – If you had somebody
take an image of you, maybe in a little compromising situation, and it spread, what would you do? – Probably… I would… – Would you come to me? – Maybe? – Do you think I wouldn’t get it? ‘Cause I get you. – [Interviewer] Do you feel like you’re overprotective of him?
– Yes. I mean, and when you’re older,
there will be a time where I’m going to have to let
you kind of explore it all for yourself, and it does concern me. – Your dad and I always talk to you about looking out for yourself, because if we’re not
around to protect you, you need to have some sort
of sense of what’s going on. And online, there’s no guarantee. – I don’t care if you’re missing out, when you’re nineteen-year-olds
and in college, you can do whatever you want. But when you’re living in with us, we have expectations, to help you develop into
the best person you can be. – Okay, I agree with that.
Tommy? – Yeah.
– What do you think? – I don’t know.
I mean, you’d think you’d have a little
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Comments (100)

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  2. >Video about being safe online

    >Promotes service that stores all your passwords ?

  3. 5:19 “I am a horrible person.”

    Correction!

    You’re a horrible parent. Lol

  4. That boy in the middle next to his dad and his sister is a real one, he know his dad doesn’t know what he is talking about so he is trying to get through this. Lol.

  5. Talbot and Vanessa and incredibly sweet and intelligent children and I guess I didn't think that they're dad would be so…overbearing to put it nicely. Blatantly telling your teenager that you don't trust them is about the fastest way to ensure that they don't ever come to you with problems even if they are in serious trouble because you made them feel like their lives have to be hidden from you to avoid ridicule. Its sad seeing the twins so happy and curious and smart in other videos and then in this one they just look so defeated and on edge with their dad there.

  6. I believe you talk to your kids, let them know what’s out there!… And have a healthy relationship with your kids, it’s not gonna be all good times but embrace. Just how I’m going about raising my daughter. I just want her to be adjusted to the world. There’s sex, drugs, etc…. I watch any content she watches

  7. Sorry to break to you parents but kids aren't themselves with you. They're mostly themselves with kids their age when there's no adults around.

  8. If I had that dad I would literally fake an accident or pretend to get stranded somewhere for hours just to say “I couldn’t call you cause I don’t have a phone”. Not having a phone is so dangerous especially for middle/high school age kids. And the grades thing is ridiculous. Not everyone can get straight As. Those kids are gonna seriously act out in college and maybe drop out since they weren’t able to experience anything or be children 🙁

  9. 4:38 I love that mother's style

  10. please don't promote dashlane in the sake of online security, why would you buy or use an app that stores all your passwords together and makes them up for you, pretty redundant,

  11. This makes me question whether having kids is a good idea. Online privacy is just an illusion, anyway. Every time you get online every single thing you do gets tapped and permanently saved onto an interface, especially by the government and corporations.

  12. wow all of the parents give off extreme helicopter vibes

  13. I think the way that parents and kids (teenagers especially) use social media is so different. I think younger people use social media for memes and to express themselves. And if they have a finsta it is private, largely satirical, and they cherrypick who sees what. Parents are the ones who are constantly posting about what they (and their families) are up to and sharing personal stuff on. And i have definitely seen parents post very personal things about their kids so its funny to me that they would worry about their kids over sharing . So I understand why the parents are concerned but they need to realize that their children dont use social media the way that they do.

  14. 2:17 are they living in a prison?

  15. I can't understand what they're saying at 2:10, can someone tell me the dialogue?

  16. The twin’s dad is such an authoritative family figure. Like damn give them space. These are the type of parents that would never let them make decisions for themselves, and lose trust and bond with the parents.

  17. Growing up, by the time I was 6 Msp (MovieStarPlanet) was the best and my mum finally let me use the computer to play it. So I did. Until one day a girl said to me let’s swap accounts, I’ll give you my skype and we will go from there. So I did.. The “girl” ended up taking my account that I had worked on so hard for and I cried for very long. Now as I am older my mum doesn’t check my phone she knows I’m responsible and that I’ve learnt. This has resulted to me telling her everything!!

  18. both the parents and the kids are just Pepega, where you at xqc viewers

  19. The kids with the strict father… They are gonna rebel and it's going to be hard for them to become friends if there isn't a balance now. I've been there ?

  20. the dad with the teenagers is to much, he really needs to relax, this is just toxic, he needs to respect his kids privacy

  21. I think it might be good to do a spin-off episode of this with a media literacy expert. I work in the field of media studies, with a primary focus on media literacy and the aim to educate parents, teachers, schools, students etc. on how to approach social media, online video-games, online interactions, reading the news etc. for younger kids.

    One of the things that worries me within this episode is that parents believe they know more about new media than their kids – thousands of research papers actually prove it to be the other way around. Younger people adapt to technological innovations much quicker and know how to hide things from their parents. That's one of the main reasons communication and trust is a better way of handling this than supervision. Some of the parents within this episode seem not to know enough about online privacy, so it might be useful for them (and the viewers) to have a talk with someone who works in the field of media literacy – and it's a fun video idea to see the parents here try to learn more about online privacy and then discuss did their opinions and approaches change.

  22. I'm a twin myself and knowing that her brother didn't have a phone scared me. Middle school was terrible. Phones are a matter of safety, not just for entertainment. Plus he has to depend on his sister or other friends…which is just depreciative. Middle school should be a time of learning oneself, so by highschool it's not /so/ much of a shock. "Good" grades or not (c'mon, straight A's is too much to ask of a kid. If he's not failing, he's good.) He should have a phone to be safe. Even if it's a flip.

  23. 0:35 feel so bad for him , I genuinely hate parents like that … I mean I’m sorry but I do ?. Like yeh I get why they say that and what their kids to earn it buttttttt I think that’s it’s rly unfair expecting them to get straight A’s, I’m sure he tried his best even if they weren’t full A’s, so he should still get one. I’m glad my parents aren’t as strict like that x

  24. The father of the twins he’s clearly very controlling and overbearing to his children. He gives me a vibe that he’s probably controlling to the mother of the children as well. No wonder his children are sometimes so socially awkward and anxiety ridden I mean how could you not be with a father like that

  25. I promise you that Dad‘s technique of parenting the twins is going to cause his kids to snap and I mean fucking snap hard!! they’re going to hit the real world and turn into party kids with issues or they’re going to hit the real world and break emotionally because they were so controlled and had no exposure to the real world. he has no idea he’s doing them such an injustice. And maybe he has such a hard time trusting his kids because maybe his parents should’ve never trusted him as a child. he should realize that he has good kids and that he needs to give them some SPACE!

  26. “I am a horrible person”…. at least crazy middle-aged white man in way too tight of pants knows what he is.

  27. That father is treating his kids like garbage. Holy shit, the way he literally humiliated them on camera for millions of people to see, only for him to just look at them with a smirk and say proudly "I'm a horrible person" should be enough proof of the fact he is a horrible person, and even a worse parent. May god, Allah, Satan, Buddha, Cthulhu or whatever they believe in save those children.

  28. Everyone's talking ab the strict dad but no one's gonna take an that kid thts like 9 and has Twitter and Instagram?

  29. Talbott and Vanessa are so grown and smart…they know whats right and wrong. they are way more mature than a lot of people I know and that with only 13years!!

  30. I feel bad for the teen boy, I'm getting a weird energy he's not happy

  31. Of course their mostly white parents

  32. So ur responsible for what ur friends say? This shit is getting me mad

  33. Oden is definitely an only child

  34. Its not like the things the parents don’t want them to learn aren’t going to come up in other places like at school. Also that dad is really over protective. Its kind of stupid

  35. That dad in the blue needs a good ole fashioned southern ass whooping.

  36. For kids with strict parents, there are literally SO many ways around this. Parents physically can't control their kids. So many ways around those BS rules.

  37. I feel bad for the two kids with that dad :/ Learn to trust your kids, and if you have a reason not to, work it out with them! You think this would be obvious.

  38. Talbot and Vanessa always come off as vibrant, goofy, and happy in other Cut and HiHo videos, yet in this video they are completely different. Those two are so intelligent and talented and deserve a bit more trust and respect. I get that the dad is doing what he thinks is best as a parent, but you can really see from their reactions and body language that his behavior towards them really affects them in a negative way. I hope they're okay.

  39. Yo who tf lets their parents go through their phone or stuff thats wayyy to controlling.
    Its like going through someones bedside drawer

  40. I feel bad for the two kids with the dad 🙁

  41. 0:27 ah the rich American child

  42. that dad with the 2 kids is a very bad father , his kids probably have a lot of mental issues because they need to be perfect for there dad , it’s okay not to have good grades , it’s okay too look at porn and do “bad” things it’s the whole part of life , if your kids don’t make Mistakes and learn from them , what’s the whole point of putting them on this earth?

  43. The white dad is smart. I like him. As a 22-year-old, I wouldn't even trust myself, so why would I trust a 13-year-old.

  44. 2:21
    His (Talbott's) face should be saying enough.

  45. That black mom seems like the best parent

  46. Damn that dad hella strict

  47. My mom: you know that I can see what you do on your phone…

    Me: oh sh-

  48. some parents were good, the others need to get rid of their reproductive organs

  49. why are they snitching on themselves ?

  50. Oden’s mom needs to rein him in. And quickly. He has too many devices and she isn’t moderating him at all. Stop letting the devices babysit your kid and parent

  51. 3:29 is the best. The mom makes the assumption “oh my son doesn’t have access to any social media platform apart from the ones I allow him to use” wrong “ I have Twitter, YouTube, etc” Also I know how to turn off the parental control hahaha love it

  52. That dad is an ass. Maybe he should be questioning his parenting if he doesn’t trust his kids.. ?

  53. “I would still delete it”
    COLD BLOODED

  54. i got my first phone when i was 7, and even all the social media’s.

  55. Be safe! Buuuuut… We're going to allow people to post videos of you year after year growing up online.

  56. This dad clearly knows what society thinks about him but well there's only one way to find out was his method of parenting good or bad

  57. eugh the twins' father reminds me of my parents but mine are even worse

  58. some of them are very very toxic – all about control only. yet, if you have adult kids one thing is clear as light: the more you try to control the more you upset your teen kids and the more likely it is they do shit or are actively looking for trouble. Today it's all about being a role model (non verbally) and talk openly with your kids – that's all a good parent can and should do.

  59. some of them are very very toxic – all about control only. yet, if you have adult kids one thing is clear as light: the more you try to control the more you upset your teen kids and the more likely it is they do shit or are actively looking for trouble. Today it's all about being a role model (non verbally) and talk openly with your kids – that's all a good parent can and should do.

  60. Internet when seeing Talbot and Vanessa on other videos: They are so amazing! Parents doing great job on teaching them!!!

    Also internet on this video: The dad is the [email protected][email protected]@@@[email protected]

    I guess he has his unique ways of handling their device usage and control over their freedom online, but I'm sure that doesn't surmount him to being so heavily penalized just from this video. Cut this guy some slack lol

  61. What a shame to have children as switched-on as those twins but not listen to a single word they say…

  62. My parents were very lenient from the start with my siblings and I. I loved the relationship I formed with both of my parents. Never once have I felt like I needed to go behind their back and do things without their consent. I’m proud enough to say that both of my parents are my best friend’s.

  63. the guy in the blue sweater was terrible. i feel so bad for the kids.

  64. The mother looked at her son with a disappointed parenting failure

  65. Jesus that one dad made me feel awful, those poor twins

  66. ODIN and the girl in the thrashers shirt are my favourites because they're so rebellious and completely uncaring

  67. I disagree with everything this dad is doing but 4:13 mate… tf

  68. I’m so fucking glad, I don’t have that kind of parents. My parents trust me, I run the banking accounts of the family. My father always give me enough money to spend. My mom cooks perfect dishes for us. My only responsibilities are stay healthy and study hard.

  69. 2:47 how does it feel to have kids that look just like you?

  70. The kid flexing a wii and some gizzmo shit made me want to end myself

  71. that boy looks so sad 2:49 i’m so sorry my guy

  72. This is how kids become democrats.

  73. I grew up in a family with 5 siblings. My step mother treated me worse than all my siblings and everyone knew it. My siblings who were allowed to have a cellphone, go out with friends, wear makeup in high school, etc all grew up fine! Now I’m the one with crippling anxiety that drinks too much and gets naked on the internet for money.

    Moral of the story: If you don’t allow kids to experience real life situations now, they will be more likely to rebel once they finally get that taste of freedom. You’re trying to protect them but going too far to make yourself feel better. Loosen up a little and give them room to GROW

  74. remember, strict parents create good liars

  75. I would never look through my kids phones

  76. 2:47 It's @JayzTwoCents lol

  77. “I’ll be your parent now and your friend later.” My mom says the same thing ??

  78. Being a little strict with kifs and having some restrictioms is okay but when you are real strict with older kids then they will never tell you a thing. Trust me I have been there and people think that they are really protecting them but in reality, there will be a day where they will find out things they have never seen.

  79. I’m so glad i never had my phone or privacy being invaded

  80. “And I don’t want you playing games like fortnite”

    Best mom of 2019

  81. Wait so this whole video is an ad

  82. Now, there is smart parenting and there is helicopter parenting. We see great examples of this here and you can tell by the childrens' reactions how either affect you. And the threshhold of helicoptering LOWERS as the kid ages. The older your kid the MORE freedom and space they need, not vice versa. You can see here how a certain dad didn't get that memo.

  83. Going through your kid's devices is Grade A helicopter parenting. oof

  84. 2:19 – 2:24
    Talbott’s reaction really shows what his relationship with his dad is like

  85. This video title needs to be called. People who dont understand online privicy try explaning online privacy to people who also dont understand online privacy.

  86. people die because of parents like that one guy! give him a phone ? grades in middle school dont even matter ??

  87. Im a tad older than these kids, but Like… my parents never had any rules like this. I just had my own guidelines I followed at a young age. Im lucky my parents never put any restrictions or anything like that on any of my devices.

  88. How is locking up your child’s devices going to teach them anything about the real world? They grow up and move out and then have no idea how to deal with internet safety because they were never taught. He says when you’re in college you can do whatever you want, why is it okay for them to deal with it then? In the midst of the many struggle of college life?

  89. The black mom is the best.
    Chill but still responsible and watchful over her kids but not strict, nor neglectful.

  90. I’m 20 years old and currently living with overly strict parents and I can tell you it does not pay off in the long run. You don’t trust your kids and your kids will never trust you.

  91. why the hell does that kid have like 15 electronics and a twitter account he’s like 4

  92. My parents were super strict growing up, so I worked very hard hard so I could gtfo of the house and go to uni far away haha. Now I'm 2 years from graduating as a doctor and I can move out ?? thanks parents

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