Why Am I Even Alive? | Muniba Mazari Speech | Inspiring Women of Goalcast

Why Am I Even Alive? | Muniba Mazari Speech | Inspiring Women of Goalcast

– I was 18 years old when I got married. I belong to a very conservative family, a Baloch family, where good daughters never
say no to their parents. My father wanted me to get married, and all I said was, “If
that makes you happy, “I will say yes.” And of course, it was
never a happy marriage. Just about after two
years of getting married, about nine years ago,
I made a car accident. Somehow, my husband fell asleep, and the car fell in the ditch. He managed to jump out, saved himself. I’m happy for him. But I stayed inside the car, and I sustained a lot of injuries. The list is a bit long. The radius and ulna of my
right arm were fractured, the wrist was fractured, shoulder bone and collar
bone were fractured, my whole ribcage got fractured. But that whole injury that changed me and my life completely
was the spine injury. Many people came to
rescue, that gave me CPR, that dragged me out of the car, and while they were dragging me out, I got the complete
transaction of my spinal cord. Those two and a half months
in the hospital were dreadful. I was at the verge of despair. One day, a doctor came
came to me and he said, “Well, I heard that you
wanted to be an artist, “but you ended up being a housewife. “I have bad news for you. “You won’t be able to paint again.” The next day, the doctor
came to me and said, “Your spine injury is so bad “you won’t be able to walk again.” I took a deep breath, and
I said, “It’s all right.” The next day, the doctor
came to me and said, “Because of your spine injury “and the fixation that
you have in your back, “you won’t be able to give
birth to a child again.” That day, I was devastated. I started to question my existence. Why am I even alive? So what kept me going was,
one day I asked my brothers, “I know I have a deformed hand, “but I’m tired of looking
at these white walls “in the hospital, and
wearing these white scrubs. “Bring me some colors,
bring me some small canvas. “I want to paint.” So the very first painting
I made was on my deathbed, where I painted for the very first time. What an amazing therapy it was. Without uttering a single word, I could paint my heart out. I could share my story. People used to come and
say, “What lovely painting. “So much color!” Nobody could see the grief in it. Only I could. And that day, I decided that I’m going to live life for myself. I am not going to be that
perfect person for someone. I am just going to take this moment, and I will make it perfect for myself, and I’m going to fight my fears. So, I wrote down, one
by one, all those fears, and I decided that I’m going
to overcome those fears one at a time. You know what was my biggest fear? Divorce. But the day I decided that
this is nothing but my fear, I liberated myself by setting him free, and I made myself emotionally so strong that the day I got the news
that he’s getting married, I sent him a text that
I’m so happy for you, and I wish you all the best. And he knows that I pray for him today. Number two was I won’t be
able to be a mother again, and that was quite devastating for me. But then I realized, there are so many children in the world. All they want is acceptance. So there is no point of crying, just go and adopt one,
and that’s what I did. (cheering) I gave my name in different organizations, different orphanages,
and I waited patiently. Two years later, I got this call from a very small city in Pakistan. I got a call and they said,
“Are you Muniba Mazari? “There is a baby boy, and
would you like to adopt?” I could literally feel the labor pains. Yes, yes, I am going to adopt him! I am coming to take him home. And that day, Neal was two days old, and today he’s six. You know when you end up
being on the wheelchair, what’s the most painful thing? People think that they will not be accepted by other people, because we, in the world of
perfect people, are imperfect. So I decided to appear more in public. I started to paint. I have done a lot of modeling campaigns. I decided that I’m going to join the national TV of Pakistan
as an anchor person. I became the National
Global Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women Pakistan, and now I speak for the
rights of women and children. I was featured in BBC 100 Women for 2015. I’m one of the Forbes
30 Under 30 for 2016. So, when you accept
yourself the way you are, the world recognizes you. It all starts from within. We have this amazing fantasy about life. This is how things should work. This is my plan, it
should go as per my plan. If that doesn’t happen, we give up. I never wanted to be on the wheelchair, never thought of being on the wheelchair. This life is a test and a trail, and the tests are never
supposed to be easy, so when you’re expecting ease from life, and life gives you lemons,
then you make the lemonade, and then do not blame life for that. It is okay to be scared,
it is okay to cry. Everything is okay, but giving
up should not be an option. They always say that
failure is not an option. Failure should be an option, because when you fail, you get up, and then you fail, and then you get up, and that keeps you going. Embrace each and every
breath that you are taking, celebrate your life, live it. Don’t die before your death. Real happiness lies in gratitude, so be grateful, be alive,
and live every moment!

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  2. U are a beautiful woman u remain me of a good friend ur face u look like a model

  3. She is the biggest drama maker I've ever seen in my whole life. The lawyer who was fighting her husband's case in court is my class fellow and he told me she's all drama queen. She was nothing without her husband and she just vanished him taking all the liberty of being a woman.

  4. age doesn't matter. 14 years old girls can give birth to haram kid but she can't get married u guys know human body Better than Allah (swt)? as far as bad marriage is concerned it has nothing to do with age. it's more about ur luck. good and bad things r part of life .

  5. Wow this is amazing much respect to you ?

  6. I m not going to be a perfect person for anyone .??? i live my life fr myself.

  7. Uhm she changed her whole story lol

  8. Well at first glance when the thumbnails pop up on my recommendation i thought she was kylie jenner but the 2nd glance….naahh?

  9. I call bs on the doc saying you wanted to be an artist but you became a mother now your paralyzed. I have a feeling that was an inner discussion.

  10. اللهم لك الحمد كماينبغي لجلال وجهك وعظيم سلطانك
    كل اقدار الله لحكمة وخير اللهم لك الحمد

  11. An inspiration you are an amazing woman

  12. Ive watched this so many times since it came out. Shes amazing

  13. I m completely amazed by ur utter willpower …god bless u mam

  14. We can relate the south asian culture with it. Age difference, marriage forced and random man. Wth is this???

  15. I really thought that was Kylie in the thumbnail ?

  16. This story left me speechless ?
    All I can say is god is good and has a plan for you in this complicated world!! ❤️

  17. asian version of shin min a

  18. 1k people cried so hard they clicked the disliked button instead if the like

  19. Very powerful. What a woman. No limits.

  20. I listen to other motivational speakers n guides…

  21. I've been with my husband for almost 8 years, since we were 13, and friends for two years before that. We got married at 19. Our son is now 3. At 16 I was told 90% of my pregnancies would end in pregnancy due to uterus didelphys. I felt like my life had been ruined, sure I was only 16, a family shouldn't matter at that point. But I've never thought about college, or what job i would be best at, a family and marriage was enough for me and I thought one of those was taken away from me before I even had a chance. I had a miscarriage in my right uterus one month before I conceived in my left, with my son. But my pregnancy with my son nearly killed me. Blood pressure was 200/200, my son's heart rate was dropping, my kidneys couldn't filter and I had gained 70 pounds of water weight. My son is my life. Ever since I've had my son I've seen parents around me failing their children, leaving them. My niece at only 3, her mother left to go take care of herself first then tried fighting for her a year later. I fought like heck because her mother nearly destroyed my family, bullied me constantly, and even tried actively pursuing my husband…. I've been through so much and I'm only 21, that was only maybe 2% of my story and I'm just now starting to find who I am…

  22. May Islam continue to bless you mashallah

  23. She should be an actress ?

  24. Love this woman ?

  25. I am sorry to hear what happened to you but one thing I don't understand why you kept on going about it.
    Dont try to teach our ladies to not to listen to their parents or against Islamic teachings.

  26. I had no idea until they cut to her on the wheelchair

  27. This girl reminds me a lot of a girl from ,,The Flash" ?
    Anyway , sad thing

  28. I’m speechless…you’re one of the angels in this world. ?♥️

  29. What a beautiful inspiring woman! Thank you.. I needed to hear this! I too am in a wheelchair due to spine and joints. Was feeling bad.. hopeless.. been sad.. not anymore! Made it a playlist titled NEED TO HEAR!! THANK YOU!!

  30. That husband is careless

  31. Such a beautiful story ❤️

  32. How is this a girl a victim of anything?
    18 is not young to be married.
    Sounds like she wants attention like a white girl

  33. God bless you! ❤??

  34. She is worst liar…never believe on her…she is an illamonati follower.

  35. You just helped me change my life Munabi ❤️

  36. Indians are horrific drivers. She should have stayed awake and kept the tired bad driver company.

  37. I ended up with tears

  38. What is the name of the background music..can anyone help??

  39. Nobody cares. Deal with your own problems, or die if you cant. Natural selection…

  40. Iraqi girls were 12 when they got raped why these paid puppets don't raise voice for those angels 🙂

  41. ഒന്നും പറയാനില്ല I become fan of muniba

  42. Hai muniba nices speech ….very very nices good mesg for me

  43. Jhooti, beghairat besharam

  44. Lair, absolutely wrong about her's husband

  45. watch it if u r brave

  46. To her Ex husband :
    You picked up a stone when you already had a gem.

  47. "We in the world of perfect people,are imperfect".

    Whtever she told is a quote.Her speech is just eye opening.

  48. This made me cry
    And trust me this is one of the Loveliest thing i have seen on internet so far …. People like this should come up in front of people to inspire. World is a happy and peaceful place.?

  49. You have a real beautiful soul
    I cannot imagine….
    How much pain you have suffered
    Just to say…
    Don't die before your death
    And this is what you did

  50. The people who disliked has no heart… ❤️ ????

  51. I am going through rough time.this video somehow ended up in my recommendations and I watched it.i am writing down whatever she says and I will read whenever I feel like I lost.

  52. Muniba Mazari….."OUR COUNTRY'S
    UR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE InshAllah ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  53. Donnot loose hope…..Allah sent you here for a reason…..dont give up till you get that…..InshAllah!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  54. this is what call INSPIRING!!! I’m sure you realized by now that you were destined to something much bigger in life than a petty little marriage! Loosing you was his loss and getting a deeper meaningful life was your gain. God chose you because you were much stronger than you thought. God bless you and cause dear. Wish you all the best!!!❣️

  55. Thank you for sharing this with me. Jeanne from Arizona USA

  56. Really such a strong women god bless her.

  57. I was depressed and anxious I was crying and giving up on everything and then I found this video!!!! This changed my life Alhumdulilah don’t die before your death keep moving forward to your goals and and your dreams xxx

  58. Ek number ki jhooti aur fraud aurat hai yeh

  59. Videonya menginspirasi senantiasa memberi semangat walau sedikit ikut sedih terharu dgn cerita hidupnya … ??

  60. Woooh, what a woman !!!!, though me, myself being a nobody, salutes not many but you lady I saluted you via my phone screen. Goosebumps.

  61. I don't know .. from which you are from. Married life will be beautiful … In ur Life it has different shade.. but not to others. I am standing as a good person .. it's because .. is got proper love from my mother. If my mother didn't given me proper love to me .. I could have find that somewhere else…with that I may not be good person. An another woman lost her pride. I may be different which will not in good person. Respectively .. my mother has a great part of in building good society..

  62. I don't why why … people always remember their GOD in trouble ..only in trouble..

  63. The title is wrong, don't blame your misfortune on others as an excuse to live a selfish life. Each one of us has their own tests in life and you have yours. Pass it with patience…You have used I do many times, the real life is life lived for others not for self. Life is short, believe in the ever lasting life if you can reason and have wisdom. Do not promote the feminist agenda.

  64. This femenism isn’t needed in Europe but in Muslim countries it does. And the sad part is that most femenists vote left (obviously) and the left is those who bring in Islam in European countries and bring their sexist culture #stopislam

  65. Already dead inside…only religious fears holding me back from committing suicide……it’s not worth living…i don't feel anything…

  66. Lots of love to u dear , happiness is life but sadness is opposite of it, u r alive, because of u lot others r alive, pain is not long lasting , u r now next to God for all the people who are sad but they r out from that darkness because of u

  67. She lied about many things. Her husband took care of her and did everything that was to be done for her treatment. Why she was not saying anything about her treatment? Her husband was a PAF officer and he did whatever he can. He hospitalised her in Military Hospital and she was treated as a priority. Just for a small piece of fame, she destroyed her home.

  68. I have only witness failures in last 7 years of my life and almost lost all desire to succeed… but while I'm watching this video, I'm crying and I'm very happy to watch this. I think I will start seeing life positively again. Thank you. Hope I change for the better.

  69. It's a sad story but a very strong women God bless you

  70. Live every moment

  71. jhoti hy sali ye pakistan ki ghaddar ha ab to sb ko pata chal chuka hy allah in ki garat kary ameen??

  72. Thank you for this speech. So many people think that if things don't go the way they think it is then it isn't worth working on. Giving up is never an option. You have to continue to try that us how you grow.

  73. I sometimes wonder about these life tests…would the story have been different had there not been that accident/injury/deformity etc. And are they the chosen ones sent to live life differently and inspire the rest of us.

  74. it's your own life live it with your own way but humanity is also a great thing be kind to others

  75. Listen up all you people. She wasn't forced into her marriage. Why are people assuming that he's soo bad. Please people don't make assumptions.

  76. "You won't be able to give birth to a child"
    "I was devastated, I questioned my whole existence, I started wondering why am I even alive"
    Yup ,because the only purpose a woman has ist to polute the planet by having children.
    Great she made an adoption though.

  77. I sorry to learn of your accident. I’m so very happy for you that you all worked out.ALLAH grant you AL AFIYA IN BOTH WORLDS. Aameen. that is to do with your parents n their thinking, culture, tradition, it had nothing had to do with religion! Very inspirational speech from depth my heart I verrrry happy that you achieved all goals and I make dua that someone comes alone who is naik n selaha takes your hand n Marrys you for who are! Aameen

  78. Amazing words.? God Bless us all ?

  79. Her story is totally lie just to get likes or watever. U r a liar girl.

  80. She has polio her parents couldn't manage to give her polio drops. Mother chod liar

  81. There's one unlucky asshole and we all know who that is.

  82. In my whole life I wanna meet you at least once❤❤

  83. Love from India..Be Happy Dear..God bless you are very strong and inspiration to everyone..???


  85. ????????????✊?????????

  86. God bless her xxx❤

  87. U are my inspiration ❤

  88. Hats off to you mam ???
    You are my inspiration ??

  89. proud of you god bless you sister

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